It's also not unreasonable for you to expect him to be. I didn't mean to sound like I'm bragging about our situation, and I'm sorry if it came across that way, I just don't like the men commenting on this powerfully honest story using their gender as an excuse for lazy fathering.

Parenthood is terrifying, especially for those of us who have to literally throw our bodies and minds into the endeavour. I don't know about your situation, but I started slipping into post natal depression (global pandemic plus new motherhood, it's a lethal combination, literally). The only thing that pulled me out was my partner stepping up to make sure we created an environment that was healthy for us both. Perhaps you truly are superhuman, as this story makes it seem. I admire your resilience truly, but please be careful with your mental health.

China specialist, feminist, political scientist in progress. Reviews, socialism & everyday academia. Low-brow, no jargon/acronyms. Editor of The Open Bookshelf.

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