I see so much of my own relationship in this story! When we first met, my partner didn’t speak very good English, and I hadn’t started learning his language yet. It meant we had to be really careful about misunderstandings, and take extra time to make sure we had both communicated what we needed to.

Six years down the line, we’re both fluent in one another’s languages (and can argue in both!) and this habit of double checking our communication still stands. We still have those silly little linguistic misunderstandings, but that just reminds us how far we’ve come, and enables us to laugh at one another, and ourselves, even in the middle of an argument.

I’m certain that taking extra care in how we communicate is why we’ve managed to change and stay strong together.

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Specialist in modern authoritarianism, feminist, political scientist in progress (PhD). Everyday academia, low-brow, no jargon/acronyms/obscure Latin.

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Abbey Heffer

Abbey Heffer

Specialist in modern authoritarianism, feminist, political scientist in progress (PhD). Everyday academia, low-brow, no jargon/acronyms/obscure Latin.

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